Sometimes having high standards can give you a bad reputation. We all know that friend who has a long, detailed list of the qualities he or she wants in another person. We call these friends picky, unrealistic, and say that theyre completely unreasonable for wanting the things that they do.

Should you ever lower your standards?

Lowering your standards wont attract the kind of partner you want, it will attract people who are looking for an easy time, without having to put up the effort to improve themselves up to a point where they can successfully aim higher. Lastly, your standards should be something you set for yourself out of self-love.

How do you know your standards are too high?

Signs Your Standards Might Be Too HighYour “must have” list is more than ten things. One thing trips you up in the courtship phase. You want a relationship like ___ and ___ have. Your “must have”s are mainly physical, and not emotional. You think about their marriage potential, instead of how they make you feel.Sep 8, 2014

How do I set my standards to be high?

How to Raise Your Personal StandardsStep 1: Gain Clarity. Your first step is to clarify what it is you want to achieve. Step 2: Assess Your Reality. Your second step is to assess your current and desired reality. Step 3: Find Inspiring Mentors. Step 4: Set Clear Standards. Step 5: Utilize the Pain and Pleasure Principle.