People with BPD tend to have relationships that are intense and short-lived. You may fall in love quickly, believing that each new person is the one who will make you feel whole, only to be quickly disappointed. Your relationships either seem perfect or horrible, without any middle ground.

How do you know if your borderline loves you?

For example, you may tell your loved one, “If you cant talk to me without screaming abuse at me, I will walk out.” Calmly reassure the person with BPD when setting limits. Say something like, “I love you and I want our relationship to work, but I cant handle the stress caused by your behavior.

When does a borderline personality end a relationship?

When a Borderline Personality Disorder Ends a Relationship People with BPD may experience frequent mood swings and shift suddenly from being affectionate to being distant, feeling smothered and feeling fearful of intimate relationships. This is known as splitting, and an episode may last anywhere from days to months.